When life gives you lemons, better buy some sugar.

Happiness Door

The man looks at me then at my overflowing basket of groceries. He raises his eyebrows and turns, sealing his single apple in the plastic bag with a twisty tie. I know that look. I know what he’s thinking and the answer is yes, it’s 10 pm and yes, those are ALL my groceries.

I used to love grocery shopping. I made elaborate shopping lists and spent hours during the day checking every item off.  I nodded as I passed the other moms with screaming kids – avoided eye contact with the ones that looked really ticked off. Stopped to chat with every old lady that that cornered me to say, “Your daughter has the most beautiful red hair.” And bribed my kids more than once with candy so they’d stay in the cart. Life was good. I was on the stay-at-home mom team and this is how we did grocery shopping.

Then the rest of life happened. My kids got older. My husband’s teaching salary didn’t stretch as far as it used to and I started working. Now with all four kids in school, the carpooling headache that goes with that and a part time job to fill in the dull spaces, I find myself doing the weekly grocery trips late at night.

Shopping_cartI may not be on the stay-at-home mom grocery team anymore, but I ‘m still on a team. Most of it’s made up of businessmen in plaid shirts and flat front khakis. They look like they’re buying just enough food to get through the night. We have gym-goers whose taut glutes make the rest of our team question the choice to put three packs of oreos in our carts. We have a few single parents who I nod at respectively while they attempt to hush their screaming child in pajamas. And me, cart overflowing with goldfish and carrot sticks. Call us the Bad News Bears of the grocery world, if you want.

In reality, my Bad New Bears aren’t my favorite grocery companions (shh.. don’t tell my teammate who just finished lifting). I like the chatty old ladies, and not being the only one in line with a full basket – but this is what life is for me now and that helps me see there’s not a perfect formula for happiness in life (or grocery shopping). Every version of life has bitter moments and sweet ones. Being a stay-at-home mom was wonderful, I loved grocery shopping during the day but tired of being on call for my children every hour of every day. Now, as a working mom, I no longer have to change diapers or wake up with kids at night but do miss the snuggling and random stillness when all the naps magically aligned.

I was happy then, I’m happy now. And hopefully I’ll be happy in every phase to come – even when I’m the old lady cornering a stay-at-home mom in the bread aisle to tell her how beautiful her daughter’s hair is.

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Getting off the Ropes

Last week I failed as a writer.

Last week, half my family was sick. My son had a birthday, there were meetings, hangouts, my job, my husbands jobs, school stuff, church stuff… yada, yada, yada. All wonderful things and all exhausting. To add a little nuts to my life sundae I signed up for NaNoWriMo this month (which I ‘m loving, by the way) but when you have a week like I had there was no way in H-E- double hockey sticks that I was going to make my daily word count. And I didn’t.

Getting off the Ropes

This week I needed a pick me up. I needed a side rink, squirt in the mouth, slap in the face, ‘you can do this’ moment. So, in case you need a pick me up too, here’s some quotes that helped me get off the ropes. And some just made me laugh.

Thank you, Goodreads.


 “If you have any young friends who aspire to become writers, the second greatest favor you can do them is to present them with copies of The Elements of Style. The first greatest, of course, is to shoot them now, while they’re happy.”

― Dorothy Parker, The Collected Dorothy Parker

“Never annoy an inspirational author or you will become the poison in her pen and the villian in every one of her books.” ― Shannon L. Alder

 

“I have a pesky little critic in the back of my mind. He’s a permanent fixture and passes judgment on everything I write.

In order to placate him, especially when I’m endeavoring to write anything as ambitious as a novel, I have to constantly mutter, ‘I’m not writing a masterpiece, I’m not writing a masterpiece.’

This mantra lulls him into a kind of stupor so that he pays no attention to what I’m doing, because after all, I’m not claiming it’s any good. Slowly, and secretly, one page at a time, I write my story.

I know I’ve succeeded when he grudgingly admits, ‘That’s pretty good.’ And if I’m lucky, every once in a while, I blow him away.”
― Rukhsana Khan

 

“i want to never settle for anything less than my soul on paper.” ― Jonathan Culver

 

“Authors write books for one, and only one, reason: because we like to torture people.” ― Brandon Sanderson, Alcatraz Versus the Evil Librarians

 

“they say that girls are the ones who want fairy tail endings, but then again, who are the authors of fairy tales? mostly men…” ― Alina Radoi

 

“Publishing a book is like being pregnant. By the end, you’re just ready to get that baby out!”
― Carmen DeSousa

 

“Authors: The only people you thank for leaving you emotionally devastated.” ― Love The Stacks Bookstore

 

“If you have a dream, don’t just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it a reality.”
― Roopleen

 


 

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